I was cleaning my desk this morning and I saw this thing. It is a gift from a friend. It looked expensive and as I continued to look at it, I thought - it was a thought-less gift. I always think of the "thought process" that goes into the gift-giving and THAT gives the value of the gift for me.
I am a huge fan of gift-giving. I only give because I want to. I never give just so I have something to hand over. I feel I am insulting the person I am giving a gift to if I just get a random gift without ANY thought. If I cannot find the right gift, I decide not give and then promise to myself to make up next time.
So what is the RIGHT gift? For me, it is something that will make the "givEE" think that I was thinking of her/him when I picked the gift for her/him (I am the "givER". I mean, I know you will get that, but I just want to make sure). This is the reason why gift-giving is so personal for me. I feel I reveal how much I care for my friend by the gift I give.
It is not the price of the gift. Not the size. I gave Lalai a wall map of the US. It now hangs in her office. I gave Baging a bag on her birthday that is so HER. She loved it! Know how I know? She wore it for months! I gave Susan a table cloth that matched the colors of her dining room curtains for her birthday last November. The next day she happily remarked that I picked the right colors.
So giving a gift and saying it is the thought that counts??? THAT is so so so so lame! I give a gift and say, I picked this gift because I know you will enjoy it. So if you do not like my gift, it could be because I do not know you that well after all.
I am a huge fan of gift-giving. I only give because I want to. I never give just so I have something to hand over. I feel I am insulting the person I am giving a gift to if I just get a random gift without ANY thought. If I cannot find the right gift, I decide not give and then promise to myself to make up next time.
So what is the RIGHT gift? For me, it is something that will make the "givEE" think that I was thinking of her/him when I picked the gift for her/him (I am the "givER". I mean, I know you will get that, but I just want to make sure). This is the reason why gift-giving is so personal for me. I feel I reveal how much I care for my friend by the gift I give.
It is not the price of the gift. Not the size. I gave Lalai a wall map of the US. It now hangs in her office. I gave Baging a bag on her birthday that is so HER. She loved it! Know how I know? She wore it for months! I gave Susan a table cloth that matched the colors of her dining room curtains for her birthday last November. The next day she happily remarked that I picked the right colors.
So giving a gift and saying it is the thought that counts??? THAT is so so so so lame! I give a gift and say, I picked this gift because I know you will enjoy it. So if you do not like my gift, it could be because I do not know you that well after all.
1 comment:
I could relate to this Mam Becca. Me too, however I never had said it this way. Yes, I'd say I'm also "a proud gift giver" coz I consider what I give and to whom. =)
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